Compatibility Theory: First-born and last-born

There are various secret recipes of successful relationships. In our last topic, we identified who are the lucky men and lucky women. In this post, we would talk about another secret recipe of a successful relationship.

There are couples who had a successful relationship because one of them is a first-born and the other is a last-born.

Sounds funny?

Don’t worry, it’s not based on superstitions, astrology, constellations, or the linings on your palms. Believe it or not, it’s somewhat scientific.

Actually, it’s all about how we are nurtured and trained. First-borns are trained to be leaders. They would likely be the most responsible among siblings because they would often experience taking care of their younger brothers and sisters especially when their parents are not around. They give orders and delegate tasks to their siblings. No wonder first-borns grow up to be independent and more matured.

On the other hand last-borns are usually the ones who are dependent and needy of supervision. They grew up knowing they have parents and older siblings to take care of them and provide them with their necessities. They often take orders from anyone at home and would often be treated as “pets” rather than “leaders”. Less pressure, less responsibilities. They usually grow up to be easy-go-lucky people.

That’s why it is perfect to have a first-born-last-born-relationship. Simply because opposites attract. One is the leader and the other is the follower. One gives orders and the other listens. Perfect, isn’t it?

Can you imagine couples who are both leaders and both of them give orders (that may be contrasting with each other)? It’s World War III! Everyone talks, nobody listens. How about couples who are both followers? Nobody talks, both are waiting for someone else to give directions… Not good either!

Before we end this post, I’d like to say all over again that these posts I’ve written are based from experiences others had. You may find it helpful, you may find it otherwise. So, it’s up to you!

Be sure to come back here for more Secrets Revealed!

Cheers!

-Xian

Compatibility Theory: Lucky is the woman who is the last love of the man

In this post, we are going to dig another secret recipe of a successful relationship. In our previous topic, we talked about the reasons why a man who is the first love of the woman is considered lucky. This time, we’ll discuss a similar topic: Lucky is the woman who is the last love of the man.

How come the woman who is the last love of the man is considered lucky? Why not the first? What is so special about men’s last encounter of love?

Again, we’ll go back to understanding men’s nature. So what do we all know about men? During teenage years, they’re usual objective upon entering a relationship is not to express love (though they think it is) but to gain experiences, satisfy their burning curiosities and to find out what they really like. Men would just like to feel what first kiss tastes like at first. Then, they would crave for more intimate experiences, more and more each time. One more thing, men mature more slowly than women. No wonder, you could see teens, even adults who still play video games.

Some may disagree and say, what if in your teenage years, you’d already found the woman who you would take seriously because you really love her? Here’s my answer: Yeah, their relationship may last for a few years, but remember that men’s curiosity is so powerful that it would take control of them. There would still come a time when men would cheat and play around and you shouldn’t be surprised about it (you may not even know it). It’s men’s nature after all. ^^

But the question is: Would men play around their entire life?

Of course not!

Like we said earlier, men mature more slowly than women, but take note… they would still mature completely in time.

When is that?

When one day they wake up and realize they had enough. When men realize that they’re getting old enough to still play and have fun all the time, they’d start to settle things down.

Yeah, they would take you seriously this time: No more games, no more curiosities, and no more mysteries. All they would long for is someone to spend their lifetime with. That’s why a woman who is the last love of the man is considered lucky.

GAME OVER!

Cheers!

- Xian

Compatibility Theory: Lucky is the man who is the first love of the woman

It’s a pretty common saying, yet it’s claimed to be one of the secret recipes of a successful relationship. That’s why in this post, we would try to discuss this one and enumerate the reasons why this saying is considered a secret recipe of a successful relationship.

 

How come a man who is the first love of the woman is considered lucky? Why not the second or third? What is so special about women’s first welcoming of love?

 

First of all, it’s all about women’s nature. We all know that women are more matured than men of the same age when it comes to relationships. Thus, women would usually take their first relationship seriously. Women are usually the ones who look at the future and think ahead of time. Most women dream of having their firsts as their lasts, and since their first relationship is so special for them, they give out almost everything if not all, to their first love: trust, love, time, and attention. That is why a man who is the first love of the woman is considered lucky.

 

However, the dream of having their firsts as their lasts usually gets ruined. Why? It's because of men's nature that will be discussed in our next post. The result of their broken dreams is a slight touch of trauma. That’s why on their second, third and fourth relationships, women get more cautious and careful not to get hurt again. And because of that, they would no longer offer 100% love, trust, time, and attention for they are now afraid of agony and throbbing. Their love, trust, time, and attention gradually diminish with each passing relationship, until such time when they meet the man who would take them seriously and sincerely.

 

So if you are a lucky guy, try to give more importance to your girl. Try your best not to hurt her or cheat on her for you may not get the special love and care you will always wish you had.

 

 

Cheers!

 

 

 

- Xian

 

Marriage is like Slurpee

Slurpee is quite addictive yet it’s not the secret recipe for a successful marriage. ^^ However, to understand marriage better, we need Slurpee. I would not tell you to buy one, I just need you to use your wild imagination of Slurpee. But if you have it with you right now, it’s better!

 

Why is marriage comparable to Slurpee?

 

First, let me ask you, have you tried to drink/eat Slurpee (Who hasn’t?)? Have you tried various flavors of it? How does it taste?

 

Oh my… tastes great!

 

That’s exactly how it feels when you just got married. It feels great. It feels like heaven, right? It’s a brand new world and you feel excited about it.

 

Okay, before you start your crazy imaginations, we’ll take you back to… Slurpee!

 

Alright, so you really liked Slurpee, you wanted to have it every single day, it makes your day and it refreshes your body. However, have you noticed anything? How does it feel when you’ve already consumed more than half of it or more than three quarters of it?

 

Come on… use your imagination.

 

BRAIN FREEZE!

 

Yeah that’s right. You feel that don’t you?

 

And when you do, you would start to dislike Slurpee. You may not even finish drinking/eating it, because it feels like you’re head is freezing and it’s not fun anymore.

 

But tell me, will you ever drink/eat Slurpee again?

 

No doubt, your answer would be… YES!

 

Why is that so? Because you know it’s yummy and it had been so ever since. ^^

 

See? You might hate it for a moment. You might get used to it for awhile. You might not drink/eat one for the meantime, but one thing’s for sure… You will never forget how it tastes like. Certainly, you will miss it.

 

Just like marriage, it would feel great for the first few months or years, but there will come a time when you’d feel used to it and it’s not fun anymore. It’s just normal. As a matter of fact, it’s just like drinking/eating Slurpee, right? Just think that it’s just some kind of BRAINFREEZE.

 

Let it pass.

Let it go.

 

In time, everything will be back to normal. The great feeling would surely return…

 

…just like Slurpee. ^^

Cheers!

-Xian