Compatibility Theory: First-born and last-born

There are various secret recipes of successful relationships. In our last topic, we identified who are the lucky men and lucky women. In this post, we would talk about another secret recipe of a successful relationship.

There are couples who had a successful relationship because one of them is a first-born and the other is a last-born.

Sounds funny?

Don’t worry, it’s not based on superstitions, astrology, constellations, or the linings on your palms. Believe it or not, it’s somewhat scientific.

Actually, it’s all about how we are nurtured and trained. First-borns are trained to be leaders. They would likely be the most responsible among siblings because they would often experience taking care of their younger brothers and sisters especially when their parents are not around. They give orders and delegate tasks to their siblings. No wonder first-borns grow up to be independent and more matured.

On the other hand last-borns are usually the ones who are dependent and needy of supervision. They grew up knowing they have parents and older siblings to take care of them and provide them with their necessities. They often take orders from anyone at home and would often be treated as “pets” rather than “leaders”. Less pressure, less responsibilities. They usually grow up to be easy-go-lucky people.

That’s why it is perfect to have a first-born-last-born-relationship. Simply because opposites attract. One is the leader and the other is the follower. One gives orders and the other listens. Perfect, isn’t it?

Can you imagine couples who are both leaders and both of them give orders (that may be contrasting with each other)? It’s World War III! Everyone talks, nobody listens. How about couples who are both followers? Nobody talks, both are waiting for someone else to give directions… Not good either!

Before we end this post, I’d like to say all over again that these posts I’ve written are based from experiences others had. You may find it helpful, you may find it otherwise. So, it’s up to you!

Be sure to come back here for more Secrets Revealed!

Cheers!

-Xian

Marriage is like Slurpee

Slurpee is quite addictive yet it’s not the secret recipe for a successful marriage. ^^ However, to understand marriage better, we need Slurpee. I would not tell you to buy one, I just need you to use your wild imagination of Slurpee. But if you have it with you right now, it’s better!

 

Why is marriage comparable to Slurpee?

 

First, let me ask you, have you tried to drink/eat Slurpee (Who hasn’t?)? Have you tried various flavors of it? How does it taste?

 

Oh my… tastes great!

 

That’s exactly how it feels when you just got married. It feels great. It feels like heaven, right? It’s a brand new world and you feel excited about it.

 

Okay, before you start your crazy imaginations, we’ll take you back to… Slurpee!

 

Alright, so you really liked Slurpee, you wanted to have it every single day, it makes your day and it refreshes your body. However, have you noticed anything? How does it feel when you’ve already consumed more than half of it or more than three quarters of it?

 

Come on… use your imagination.

 

BRAIN FREEZE!

 

Yeah that’s right. You feel that don’t you?

 

And when you do, you would start to dislike Slurpee. You may not even finish drinking/eating it, because it feels like you’re head is freezing and it’s not fun anymore.

 

But tell me, will you ever drink/eat Slurpee again?

 

No doubt, your answer would be… YES!

 

Why is that so? Because you know it’s yummy and it had been so ever since. ^^

 

See? You might hate it for a moment. You might get used to it for awhile. You might not drink/eat one for the meantime, but one thing’s for sure… You will never forget how it tastes like. Certainly, you will miss it.

 

Just like marriage, it would feel great for the first few months or years, but there will come a time when you’d feel used to it and it’s not fun anymore. It’s just normal. As a matter of fact, it’s just like drinking/eating Slurpee, right? Just think that it’s just some kind of BRAINFREEZE.

 

Let it pass.

Let it go.

 

In time, everything will be back to normal. The great feeling would surely return…

 

…just like Slurpee. ^^

Cheers!

-Xian

 

Men's Secret Revealed: How to keep HIM for long - Part 1

It's the first in the series of men's secrets to be revealed here in Secrets Revealed. You may find a vast collection of secret-revealing articles in the net, however, what we are posting here are of personal experiences of the authors, the authors’ colleagues, friends, relatives and loved ones. We intend to enlighten minds just like what we said on our very first blog to be a better person and partner. We will try to help readers avoid committing mistakes whether they are in a relationship or not.

Let’s now start with our topic: Men’s secret: How to keep him for long.

Young men usually do not settle for a long relationship like everything’s only for fun. Men could easily be turned-off with the slightest of women’s unsightliness. They are always after the physical attributes of women. One way to keep him for long is to stay attractive, never get used to your guy, and always treat him as a new person who likes to see your gorgeousness each and every day. Your capability to alter your beauty to another level should be kept secret to your guy. It should be something that he would look forward to see every time.

Men would always tell you which fashion you had used that significantly got his attention. Once he told you that, it would only mean one thing: He wants you that way, and would like you less the other way around. But here’s the catch, a secret you should know as a woman: Men would get easily used to anything. Spaghetti is great, but eating spaghetti everyday is not good either. Try different things, have different looks! Distinguish which day is special and which is ordinary, alter your style accordingly.

What you’ve read today is just the least thing you should know on how to keep your boyfriend for long.

More secrets to be revealed so always come back here at Secrets Revealed!

Cheers!

-Xian