Compatibility Theory: First-born and last-born

There are various secret recipes of successful relationships. In our last topic, we identified who are the lucky men and lucky women. In this post, we would talk about another secret recipe of a successful relationship.

There are couples who had a successful relationship because one of them is a first-born and the other is a last-born.

Sounds funny?

Don’t worry, it’s not based on superstitions, astrology, constellations, or the linings on your palms. Believe it or not, it’s somewhat scientific.

Actually, it’s all about how we are nurtured and trained. First-borns are trained to be leaders. They would likely be the most responsible among siblings because they would often experience taking care of their younger brothers and sisters especially when their parents are not around. They give orders and delegate tasks to their siblings. No wonder first-borns grow up to be independent and more matured.

On the other hand last-borns are usually the ones who are dependent and needy of supervision. They grew up knowing they have parents and older siblings to take care of them and provide them with their necessities. They often take orders from anyone at home and would often be treated as “pets” rather than “leaders”. Less pressure, less responsibilities. They usually grow up to be easy-go-lucky people.

That’s why it is perfect to have a first-born-last-born-relationship. Simply because opposites attract. One is the leader and the other is the follower. One gives orders and the other listens. Perfect, isn’t it?

Can you imagine couples who are both leaders and both of them give orders (that may be contrasting with each other)? It’s World War III! Everyone talks, nobody listens. How about couples who are both followers? Nobody talks, both are waiting for someone else to give directions… Not good either!

Before we end this post, I’d like to say all over again that these posts I’ve written are based from experiences others had. You may find it helpful, you may find it otherwise. So, it’s up to you!

Be sure to come back here for more Secrets Revealed!

Cheers!

-Xian

Compatibility Theory: Lucky is the woman who is the last love of the man

In this post, we are going to dig another secret recipe of a successful relationship. In our previous topic, we talked about the reasons why a man who is the first love of the woman is considered lucky. This time, we’ll discuss a similar topic: Lucky is the woman who is the last love of the man.

How come the woman who is the last love of the man is considered lucky? Why not the first? What is so special about men’s last encounter of love?

Again, we’ll go back to understanding men’s nature. So what do we all know about men? During teenage years, they’re usual objective upon entering a relationship is not to express love (though they think it is) but to gain experiences, satisfy their burning curiosities and to find out what they really like. Men would just like to feel what first kiss tastes like at first. Then, they would crave for more intimate experiences, more and more each time. One more thing, men mature more slowly than women. No wonder, you could see teens, even adults who still play video games.

Some may disagree and say, what if in your teenage years, you’d already found the woman who you would take seriously because you really love her? Here’s my answer: Yeah, their relationship may last for a few years, but remember that men’s curiosity is so powerful that it would take control of them. There would still come a time when men would cheat and play around and you shouldn’t be surprised about it (you may not even know it). It’s men’s nature after all. ^^

But the question is: Would men play around their entire life?

Of course not!

Like we said earlier, men mature more slowly than women, but take note… they would still mature completely in time.

When is that?

When one day they wake up and realize they had enough. When men realize that they’re getting old enough to still play and have fun all the time, they’d start to settle things down.

Yeah, they would take you seriously this time: No more games, no more curiosities, and no more mysteries. All they would long for is someone to spend their lifetime with. That’s why a woman who is the last love of the man is considered lucky.

GAME OVER!

Cheers!

- Xian

Compatibility Theory: Lucky is the man who is the first love of the woman

It’s a pretty common saying, yet it’s claimed to be one of the secret recipes of a successful relationship. That’s why in this post, we would try to discuss this one and enumerate the reasons why this saying is considered a secret recipe of a successful relationship.

 

How come a man who is the first love of the woman is considered lucky? Why not the second or third? What is so special about women’s first welcoming of love?

 

First of all, it’s all about women’s nature. We all know that women are more matured than men of the same age when it comes to relationships. Thus, women would usually take their first relationship seriously. Women are usually the ones who look at the future and think ahead of time. Most women dream of having their firsts as their lasts, and since their first relationship is so special for them, they give out almost everything if not all, to their first love: trust, love, time, and attention. That is why a man who is the first love of the woman is considered lucky.

 

However, the dream of having their firsts as their lasts usually gets ruined. Why? It's because of men's nature that will be discussed in our next post. The result of their broken dreams is a slight touch of trauma. That’s why on their second, third and fourth relationships, women get more cautious and careful not to get hurt again. And because of that, they would no longer offer 100% love, trust, time, and attention for they are now afraid of agony and throbbing. Their love, trust, time, and attention gradually diminish with each passing relationship, until such time when they meet the man who would take them seriously and sincerely.

 

So if you are a lucky guy, try to give more importance to your girl. Try your best not to hurt her or cheat on her for you may not get the special love and care you will always wish you had.

 

 

Cheers!

 

 

 

- Xian

 

Marriage is like Slurpee

Slurpee is quite addictive yet it’s not the secret recipe for a successful marriage. ^^ However, to understand marriage better, we need Slurpee. I would not tell you to buy one, I just need you to use your wild imagination of Slurpee. But if you have it with you right now, it’s better!

 

Why is marriage comparable to Slurpee?

 

First, let me ask you, have you tried to drink/eat Slurpee (Who hasn’t?)? Have you tried various flavors of it? How does it taste?

 

Oh my… tastes great!

 

That’s exactly how it feels when you just got married. It feels great. It feels like heaven, right? It’s a brand new world and you feel excited about it.

 

Okay, before you start your crazy imaginations, we’ll take you back to… Slurpee!

 

Alright, so you really liked Slurpee, you wanted to have it every single day, it makes your day and it refreshes your body. However, have you noticed anything? How does it feel when you’ve already consumed more than half of it or more than three quarters of it?

 

Come on… use your imagination.

 

BRAIN FREEZE!

 

Yeah that’s right. You feel that don’t you?

 

And when you do, you would start to dislike Slurpee. You may not even finish drinking/eating it, because it feels like you’re head is freezing and it’s not fun anymore.

 

But tell me, will you ever drink/eat Slurpee again?

 

No doubt, your answer would be… YES!

 

Why is that so? Because you know it’s yummy and it had been so ever since. ^^

 

See? You might hate it for a moment. You might get used to it for awhile. You might not drink/eat one for the meantime, but one thing’s for sure… You will never forget how it tastes like. Certainly, you will miss it.

 

Just like marriage, it would feel great for the first few months or years, but there will come a time when you’d feel used to it and it’s not fun anymore. It’s just normal. As a matter of fact, it’s just like drinking/eating Slurpee, right? Just think that it’s just some kind of BRAINFREEZE.

 

Let it pass.

Let it go.

 

In time, everything will be back to normal. The great feeling would surely return…

 

…just like Slurpee. ^^

Cheers!

-Xian

 

Secret Revealed: Men give love to get sex, Women give sex to get love

Some may think it’s no longer a secret, some may find it so harsh, but it’s true nonetheless. Now, you’re starting to think, am I right? Try to look at the bigger picture, not just at yourself. Individually, maybe we could say it’s not true, but we’re talking in general here, we consider the majority. It’s a secret men and women have but couldn’t keep.

 

Why? Because action speaks louder than words!

 

It’s so hard to admit that it’s true, because we ourselves are victims of this secret. We sometimes do it without knowing it. Others do it deliberately, because of their personal motive, their secret agenda.

 

It’s very elementary to know men’s nature in general. Men, especially the young ones, are captives of their own curiosity (but it does not mean that women are not curious about things). They will do whatever it takes to gain different kinds of experiences this life would offer. Most of them are not afraid to try new things, and one of these things is sex.

 

Sex is a very influential force that triggers one’s mind to do unusual things for pleasure. One way to achieve it is to be in a relationship, finding a partner for such activity. However, finding a partner is not an easy task for everyone. Unappealing men sometimes have a hard time looking for their partner. On the other hand, it is easier for attractive guys, they could easily get one anytime. And since the motive is to get sex, men are willing to give love: a conditional love. No wonder there are a lot of good-looking men having a not-so-good-looking girlfriend. Is it true? Sometimes NO, but most of the time, YES.

 

So influential, eh?

 

Others need not to be in a relationship for the same purpose. They could have it ANYTIME! Why? Because there are women who are willing to give SEX, just to get LOVE. How come it’s true? There are several cases where women get seriously attracted, if not desperate, with someone so alluring but could not get his attention. And I guess most women know men’s secret, or should I say weakness: sex. Some think that giving them such would reciprocate in the form of LOVE. Is it true? May be yes, may be no.

 

See? Now you’re starting to agree!

 

How many different movies have you watched or real-life experiences you heard could confirm that this secret is true? Not to mention your colleagues’ or your classmates’ similar experiences that you are now starting to recall. How many men gave love to get sex? And how many women gave sex to get love?

 

Is it wrong? Is it harsh? It’s up to you to judge. As for me, conditional love is a thrash: unsuccessful and undesirable.

 

Again, I didn’t say all men and women are like that. But it happens, most times, and this secret will be passed on generation after generation.

 

 

Cheers!

 

 

-Xian  

 

 

 

Men's Secret Revealed: Why we are nice to YOU

It’s a secret that women should know. Of course, we don’t want you to be fooled as much as possible. We don’t want you to misinterpret the actions of men around you.

 

We assume that at this point, you were able to read the preceding posts here in Secrets Revealed.  If not, we recommend you to read them.

 

The other post is closely related to our topic: Men’s Secret: Why we are nice to you.

 

A guy being nice to you does not mean that he LIKES you. Keep this in mind: If he’s nice to you, then so he is to other girls.

 

Then what does it mean? Why are men nice to YOU?

 

There are many possible reasons but we will reveal secrets according to known experiences.

 

Men are nice to you because of different motives. One possible motive is physical attraction. Men are nice to you because you are stunning, alluring, and you possess a sexy figure that really attracts them. Who would not be? Ask yourself, how do guys treat pretty girls? On the other hand, how do they treat the not-so-good-looking-ones?

 

It adds up to men’s confidence and self-worth to get acquainted with the likes of you. Then, they would try to get closer and closer… as close as they possibly can.

 

Another possible reason is about gaining experiences like what we had said on the other post. Men are nice to you because they want to get something out of you. You just got so lucky it was you, their target victim to have sex with. It may not be sex, but as long as they have the motive or secret agenda, they could start getting it by simply being nice to you.

 

There maybe some who would disagree to the first possible reason we have stated (Men are nice to you because you are gorgeous). Others may claim that a lot of guys are nice to girls even though they’re not pretty or sexy. Yes you are right, and we agree with you! So here comes the last possible reason that we’re going to discuss in this post: the art of collecting. ^^

 

Men are nice to you because he could include you to his vast collection of possible-girlfriends-to-be. Do you think men have only one prospect at a time? That’s not men’s nature and neither their secret. They always have plan B, thus having more than one prospect. Then aside from his main prospect, who else would be on his list? You sure want to know the answer? Okay. It’s YOU!

 

Men do not only devise a plan B but rather devise a plan for the future. They are nice to you because you could be on the list of his present and future prospects. Now, are you starting to agree?

 

Again, we are not saying that all men are like that, we are talking in general and we are not accusing anybody of doing anything. We are speaking from our own and others’ experiences. Men could be nice to you without any secret agenda, but always consider those who have different motives. Be careful not to get hurt because of wrong judgment or misinterpretation.

 

 

Peace out!

 

 

 

-Xian

Men's Secret Revealed: How to keep HIM for long - Part 1

It's the first in the series of men's secrets to be revealed here in Secrets Revealed. You may find a vast collection of secret-revealing articles in the net, however, what we are posting here are of personal experiences of the authors, the authors’ colleagues, friends, relatives and loved ones. We intend to enlighten minds just like what we said on our very first blog to be a better person and partner. We will try to help readers avoid committing mistakes whether they are in a relationship or not.

Let’s now start with our topic: Men’s secret: How to keep him for long.

Young men usually do not settle for a long relationship like everything’s only for fun. Men could easily be turned-off with the slightest of women’s unsightliness. They are always after the physical attributes of women. One way to keep him for long is to stay attractive, never get used to your guy, and always treat him as a new person who likes to see your gorgeousness each and every day. Your capability to alter your beauty to another level should be kept secret to your guy. It should be something that he would look forward to see every time.

Men would always tell you which fashion you had used that significantly got his attention. Once he told you that, it would only mean one thing: He wants you that way, and would like you less the other way around. But here’s the catch, a secret you should know as a woman: Men would get easily used to anything. Spaghetti is great, but eating spaghetti everyday is not good either. Try different things, have different looks! Distinguish which day is special and which is ordinary, alter your style accordingly.

What you’ve read today is just the least thing you should know on how to keep your boyfriend for long.

More secrets to be revealed so always come back here at Secrets Revealed!

Cheers!

-Xian

20 Questions: The Game of Revealing Secrets

Do you want to be close with someone-you’ve- just-known overnight? Do you want to know your partner's secrets and let him/her reveal it in an interesting way?What else do you not know about him/her? Would you like to ask him/her your surprise questions that he/she is not expecting, yet your partner is required to answer it?

If your answer is “yes”, then this blog is for you!

This game is called 20 Questions! This game will reveal secrets. Yes you heard it right…Secrets!

The mechanic is very simple: Just ask questions!

How many? Don’t ask me that stupid question (just kidding), it’s on the title! ^^

What materials do we need to start with this thrilling and revealing game?

Do you have a double-edged blade or any sharp knife at home? Do you have at least one liter of concentrated hydrochloric acid? Do you have a thick rope or a chain or anything that could suffocate someone? And you should prepare a lighter and a barrel full of gasoline for this game. You need these materials in case your partner lied to you, torture him/her! Ha ha ha.

On the other hand, do you have acting skills? You will need this in case you don’t want to reveal your secrets. If your partner asked you a question and you’re not ready to reveal it yet because you think it’s too private, then just act like you’re feeling dizzy, or you could act as if you really fainted, or anything that is really convincing, just to keep your secrets unrevealed!

Actually, you could easily cheat on this game, so if you want to have a successful, secret-revealing game, then you should pick the right partner for you, someone who is dedicated and willing to reveal his/her top-secrets, and so should be you.

So have you found an honest partner now who is willing to reveal his/her secrets and someone who wants to know your secrets as well? Then let’s start!

Games without rules are not so interesting, so here are some of the rules we need to follow in this game:

1. No follow-up questions. However, answers should be revealing and in complete details, not just yes or no.

2. You may not repeat questions that were already asked.

3. You may not lie or else… (it’s up to your partner! ^^)

4. The secrets revealed should be just between you and your partner.

You and your partner could ask 10 questions apiece. Who would be the first one to ask is up to you, you may do paper-scissor-stone, or you may flip a coin, or you may roll a dice.

Now, let’s start revealing secrets!

You may ask any questions you like, ranging from most shallow to deepest, and most serious to most private. You may not ask follow-up questions, so your question should start with how or why rather than “Do you” or “don’t you”, you don’t want to receive answers like yes or no and then pass your turn just like that, right?

Be smart, always remember that according to rule #2, you may not repeat questions, right? So if you want to know something, go straight to it. NEVER hesitate, or else your partner might be the first to take it and you may not ask him/her about that again.         

You are free to tell lies, but what’s the point of playing this game if you would only lie, you are taking the essence of it away. Don’t do that, okay? We are playing this game because we want to reveal secrets, right? Then let’s reveal our secrets and let others’ secrets be revealed as well.

So that’s it! How many secrets have you revealed huh? Did you have enough? If not, then go play this game again, more secrets revealed, more fun!

You may enhance this very simple game of revealing secrets by adding some spice or should I say punishments for disobeying the rules. Just don’t change the rules, okay?

WARNING!

This game of revealing secrets could hurt you, for things we don’t know or secrets just revealed may not be good to hear. This game could frustrate you as well. Remember, by playing this game, you turn yourself into an open book, no lies, and no secrets.

On the other hand, you may feel free as a bird, or you may feel as if you’re in equilibrium, or in a swing that sways back and forth, for you had said all the things that you kept for a long time. Not to mention those pairs who played this game, revealed their secrets, are no longer singles now. Yes, you heard it right! There are relationships that started through this game.

Last warning: If you’re going to play this secret-revealing game alone, meaning only the two of you, be careful, for there could be more thrilling games ahead. ^^

No more secrets…

Reveal it all!

Enjoy revealing secrets!

 

High-fives!

-Xian

Welcome to Secrets Revealed!

This site will help you be a better person and partner through revealing secrets men and women have.  We would write articles based from our personal experiences, our friends' and colleagues' experiences not to make rumors or to humiliate someone but to enlighten you with your how's and why's. As the saying goes, "A smart man learns from his mistake and uses it to be a better man, but a SMARTER man learns from others' mistakes to be the best he could ever be."

That is our goal, to help YOU be a smarter person and to bring out the best in YOU.

This world is full of secrets; Secrets that would be revealed little by little. People are so curious about everything they see (and couldn't see) in this world such as world mysteries, ancient history, existence of life, electromagnetic fields, heavenly bodies, aliens, codes, artifacts, unseen forces, nature, even the speed of a moving object!

But what everyone should know is that the greatest secrets of all lie within us. However, do we really know what our secrets are? Are we ready to reveal these secrets? Or are we going to let it be hidden somewhere inside us? Unfortunately, we can't hide it forever. On the other hand, revealing these secrets would help us be a better person to one another.

Why do guys do these?

...And why do girls do that? 

What should I do if this and that happens?

So are you ready to reveal it?

Okay! So always come back here for more Secrets Revealed!

 

Cheers!

 

 

 

-Xian